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Why David Bowie and Iman inspired me to be an Interfaith Minister?

An open love poem of condolence to Iman and David for an inspirational love at a time of loss

I cannot know how great your love or your loss

It wasn't just your music or your collective talents

Or infinite breathless beauty that shone for me but

The Stella quality of your Union In a world where so called mixed marriage Is still taboo

The two of you Created a model for forbidden love

That had never been seen so publicly or successfully demonstrated before

A divine Union of equals In a world that assumes inequality or imbalance

You embody the yin yang Taijitu

The divine masculine and feminine

And now the paradox of life and death In eternal oneness

May the pain of your separation be eased by knowing you created perfection

Thank you

May all love surround you and your family now and forever

This poem was inspired by a deep love that arose with the death of David Bowie.  Iman and David were one of the inspirations for me in becoming an Interfaith Minister - to provide ceremonies and spiritual guidance for rebellious souls who shine fully like this beautiful couple.   Please like and share if this touches you too. Maybe, just maybe, we can weave a net of love to soothe the grief of all those who mourn the loss of this great rebellious soul.

Rebel Rev. Monica x ‪#‎RebelRebel‬ @TheNJourney


Rebel Rev. Monica Douglas-Clark is a Transformational Guide, Nurturing Yoga Teacher Trainer and Sacred Business Rebel.  She works Online and In-person with individuals, couples and groups. She loves inspiring rebellious souls around the world to live life more fully, creatively and joyfully through the revolutionary businesses that she runs.  She's on a mission to support at least a million rebellious souls to love life in all it's seasons, cycles and appearances before she dies.  There is nothing she likes more than snuggling up with Mr DC, their cat Laskshmi and the dog Anubis that's on it's way.

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Rebel Rev. Monica Douglas-Clark

Transformational Guide, Nurturing Yoga Teacher Trainer and Sacred Business Rebel




How to say No with Love

Ever been shocked when someone has said no to you?

Over the last few weeks I have shocked several people by saying ‘no’ to situations that I normally would have said nothing about or carried on with reluctantly. The situations have always been where something in my mind, heart and/or body has not felt, sounded or looked right.

I know that people have been shocked because they have told me.  They have expressed shock that I am not being my “normal” all encompassing “I’ll do it all” self.  They have told me that they expected me say yes because I “would have normally said yes to that’; they have assumed that I would have given them more time, more leeway, more guidance, more rope, more, more… They have expressed sadness that my behaviour has not been as “nurturing” as they have expected from someone who runs a business called The Nurturing Journey.

I’m writing this post to celebrate the clarity that I have about when to say no.  I am celebrating my realization that in order to live a life that feels like a yes in my body, sounds like a yes in my heart and looks like a yes in my mind I sometimes have to say no. When I say no it means I’m saying no with the intention of nurturing others and myself.

Nurturing doesn’t mean molly coddling or being a doormat for others.  My definition of nurturing is to help (something or someone) to grow, develop, or succeed and that can be through saying yes to something or no depending on what is the right action to take. For me it means being in integrity, acting authentically and having clear boundaries that you are willing to expand or uphold as necessary.

I believe that life is a series of nurturing journeys with inevitable ups, downs, transitions, endings and new beginnings. I also feel that when we step fully into our bodies, listen to the call of our heart, have clarity of mind and connect to our soul that we can find ways to navigate the Nurturing Journey of our life in all it’s twists and turns.

This is why I call my sacred business The Nurturing Journey.  I’m no longer rescuing people or nurturing people in the old smothering ways that encourage dependency.  I’m helping people to grow their own internal support and connection to Spirit so that they can shine their own unique light in the world. I can walk alongside you for a while on your Nurturing Journey and sometimes that means saying “No, I’m not willing to do that”.  I also encourage you to do the same when you are walking The Nurturing Journey with me.

I believe that the most compassionate, loving thing you can do for the world is be fully you.  When you’re being truly you by looking after your body, listening to your heart and watching your mind you can connect to Spirit - the unconditional source of love and abundance that flows through you.  You can then choose to give and act from that place generously knowing that this is the right action for you to take right now.   This sometimes means doing less, letting go of things that are no longer in alignment and saying no. When you truly do this you can be grateful for all that you have, give and be of service.

So if I say no to you, know that it’s for a bigger, higher purpose and I hope you’ll not be shocked by it.  If you say no to me because something doesn’t have integrity for you I will honour and accept it in the same way.


Rebel Rev. Monica Douglas-Clark is a Transformational Guide, Nurturing Yoga Teacher Trainer and Sacred Business Rebel.  She works Online and In-person with individuals, couples and groups. She loves inspiring rebellious souls around the world to live life more fully, creatively and joyfully through the businesses that she runs.  She's on a mission to support at least a million rebellious souls to love life in all it's seasons, cycles and appearances before she dies.  There is nothing she likes more than snuggling up in bed with Mr DC, their cat Laskshmi and the dog Anubis that's on it's way.
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Transformational Guide, Nurturing Yoga Teacher Trainer and Sacred Business Rebel



How I Healed my Womb and Unleashed My Inner Goddess

In 2000, I was working in a Local Authority, earning good money, and on track to be a Council Chief Executive within 5 years.  I was practicing and training in yoga, as an escape from the mundaneness and stress, when I had a realization that something wasn’t right. I had irregular, heavy, and painful periods. I was bloated, snappy and unhappy for half of the month, and knew I had to do something. For years, I was able to manage how I was feeling. I made progress by giving up my regular job and training to be a yoga teacher, NLP Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner, and more. (It’s a huge list).I changed what I ate, and I took initiations and trainings galore.  Many of these trainings and practices worked, yet at some level I still didn’t feel whole and complete as a woman. At this time, I was guided by various teachers, all of them male, on how to make personal and spiritual progress. They all advised me to look within.  I’m incredibly grateful for that advice because this is what I did. I looked at my life in all its aspects.I committed to thousands of hours of yoga practice, teaching, and meditation. I reviewed my partnership with my now husband, and I looked at my relationships with my family and friends. I transformed what I was doing with my work, and started going for my dreams.I met some amazing people. I grew my wellbeing business, and also supported my husband in growing our family business.

Then I got pregnant. It was a year where all of the women of childbearing age in my family fell pregnant. My father said something very telling, “at last you’ll be a woman now”. It was as though the route of mother was the only valid way to be a woman. I felt somewhat aggrieved by this. I wasn’t even trying to get pregnant. Then I had a miscarriage. As a result of the scans, I discovered that I had fibroids. It was clear that I was completely detached from my feminine body, its creativity, and potential. I met my maternal needs by training in pregnancy yoga, and by teaching hundreds of women to nurture their unborn babies and themselves, during pregnancy and labour. I tried conventional and unconventional methods to reduce the fibroids. I took medicinal herbs, had Mayan abdominal massages, and further refined my food and exercise. I even had a uterine embolisation to shrink them. (It didn’t work and it was a painful and damaging decision for me).

I became a-symptomatic – no pain, discomfort, or heavy periods, but despite all of the work the fibroids kept growing. They grew to the size of a 24 week gestation womb – 3 large grapefruits and small pineapple. I remembered that what I needed to do was go inside of myself.  So I did. I wrote in my journal, I meditated, and I prayed. The message that I received was that my fibroids were my womb telling me about my unfulfilled creative potential, and I needed to step into my truth.  I decided to have deeply healing surgery where I’d keep my womb, but have my fibroids removed and acknowledge the gift that they had bought me.

I renewed my commitment to fulfilling my potential. Yet, I still didn’t feel whole. I took myself on a fertility journey in a quest to get pregnant, and become a woman in the eyes of my family. I had 4 rounds of IVF before I realised that I could be a woman without being a physical mother.  I knew I had to recognise the validity of the parts of me that meant I could be a multifaceted woman in my own right, on my own terms, mother or not. Although I knew it, I didn’t know how to do it.  I remembered again that all I needed to do was take time to go inside to connect with my inner wisdom.

And I did.

This time, I took a sabbatical with my husband in Barbados.  A period of deep reflection, relaxation, and discovery. I did The Artist Way – a 12 step process for discovering and recovering your creative self. I uncovered my creative potential. I practiced daily mantra, yoga, affirmations, and journaling to take me deep within.  I made the commitment to be fearless in the realization of my authentic self. Then I had a breakthrough, a breakdown, a healing transformation, or enlightenment experience. (It doesn’t matter what you call it). I had an irrefutable, unforgettable experience of being one with everything, of being part of the divine feminine and masculine, of being whole – ONE. It was the most scary, joyful, and expansive experience of my life. I knew that I needed to live my life in a way that could connect the divine feminine and masculine within me in a permanent way. So, I sought out female guidance and support as a balance to the masculine paradigm that I had been living in.

I started teaching yoga from a nurturing, loving perspective that blended the masculine and feminine aspects.   I re-read “Women Who Run with the Wolves”, and all of the new and old classics. I sought out female company. I made friends with women who had been on a journey of discovering their sacred femininity of becoming whole.  I practiced and discovered sacred sexuality with Tantric approaches and Taoist practices, including the Jade Egg. During that time I fell back into the trap of needing to be a superhero - The Nurturer.

I found myself repeating old patterns of trying to save and mother others all of the time. I needed to find a path that would remind me that the mother archetype was a valuable aspect, but not the only way to be a woman.  That was when I came across Miranda’s work with Red Moon and The Optimised woman. In these books, Miranda opened up the possibility that I could live my life as a multifaceted woman. I could integrate and work with the four phases of energy that I felt - the Reflective, Dynamic, Expressive and Creative, in powerful and useful ways. I recognised that I had the four archetypes of woman within me – the Maiden, Mother, Enchantress, and Crone. I could use these archetypes to live a whole, complete, and fulfilled life that celebrated all of me.

Through this work, I have discovered a gentle path for integrating my feminine energies, completing the healing of my body, and have now trained to support other women to do the same.Over the last 2 years, I have stepped into a whole new way of being me, of nurturing myself to wholeness. I gained the courage to set up my retreat space in Barbados, and I have made radical changes in the way that I live and work. My work and home life are now set up in a way that honours the wisdom of my womb, and works with the power of my female energy cycles.I’ve practiced and experimented with various paths over the last 15 years, but I have found the Womb Blessing path with Miranda Gray to be one of the most universal and open paths for me to connect to the sacred feminine power within me. Women around the world are reconnecting with the power of their feminine energies. I know that this work can help, and I want to share this work with more women as an act of gratitude and appreciation for all that it has done for me

Throughout my own journey, I have practiced techniques and carried out training to heal myself and my womb, and reclaim the power of my female energy cycles. One of the training paths that I have carried out was Womb Blessing Training with Miranda Gray, Author and Founder of The World Wide Womb Blessing, to become a Moon Mother. Since then I have deepened my understanding and learning and have become an Advanced Moon Mother. As an Advanced Moon Mother, I have been asked many questions about this type of work and the training. I have created this talk so that you have a clear idea of the support and training available on this Womb Blessing path.

This blog is purely my own experience of energy cycles, and following the Womb Blessing and Moon Mother path. It is not intended to teach you practices or techniques, but to be used as an informational tool to find out more…

Contact me at if you:

  • Want to learn how to connect to their feminine nature and female energy cycles in a practical way
  • Want support with the healing of their womb (whether you have a physical womb or not) from pain, disease, chronic conditions, post-operative disconnection, and negative association
  • Are drawn to the work of Monica Douglas-Clark, Miranda Gray, The Worldwide Womb Blessing and/or Moon Mothers
  • Are considering attending Red Moon and/or Womb Blessing Training to become initiated as a Moon Mother
  • Want to know more about what it means to be a Moon Mother or an Advanced Moon Mother
  • Want to clarify how to learn more about this Womb Blessing path

You may:

  • Be completely new to this type of work
  • Have participated in the World Wide Womb Blessing or been to a Red Tent or Women’s Gathering
  • Have read “Red Moon” or “The Optimized Woman” and feel the need to put this knowledge of your cycle into practice
  • Be experienced in this work already through working with women with their menstrual cycles, pregnancy, menopause, and/or fertility
  • Feel drawn to be part of this global movement, dedicated to serving women all over the world to heal their wombs, be whole, and happy

“I feel that we, women, are being called to reclaim our sacred female power, our feminine energies and cyclical nature. I know from my story that we need help and support to do it. “

- Monica Douglas-Clark





From a Fear or Scarcity to an Abundance of Love

I have had the word 'scarcity' running through my head all weekend, since the events in Paris. For me, the events are not just about Paris. They are a stark and scary reminder about our whole world and the destruction, fear, and terror that is being inflicted all over our planet, under our noses, and on our watch.

I feel that a mindset of scarcity is at the centre of the tragedy that we are living in. If we have the courage to change our mindset, we can create a more abundant view of the world.

Scarcity is defined firstly as an 'inadequate supply; dearth; paucity of something'. In the gym, at the shops, walking along the street, and in other places that I have been this weekend, I have heard various conversations that focussed on scarcity and lack.

I have heard conversations about there being inadequate supply of security, protection, government action against terrorists, money, land, food, and infrastructure. I have heard people say "there is nothing we can do".

The recurring message that I have been hearing is that we are powerless. There is not enough 'x', you are not enough 'x', and I am not enough 'x' to resolve this problem.

I know for myself that whenever I get into this mindset of scarcity and lack, I paralyse myself from acting to move towards a resolution. I have seen how this operates in my family, with my friends, my teachers, my business, and in institutions that I support and am a part of.

A scarcity mindset restricts the flow of love that wants to pour from my heart and mind.

So, I choose to believe in abundance. A state where there is more than enough love, land, food, money, infrastructure, compassion, and care to change our world for the better.

Just to be clear, I am not talking about the wasteful overconsumption and hoarding that is being peddled as abundance. I am talking about a recognition that amongst all living creatures on this planet, there is more than enough for us all.

Providing that is, that we choose to protect life, our environment, and communities from destruction, and exploitation, and we choose to live in harmony and cooperation with each other.

When we cultivate a mindset of abundance, we recognise that we have more than enough people on this planet who are committed to action and changes in our individual behaviour and consciousness, to bring a counter balance to the fear and terror.

We are powerful beyond measure in our bodies, hearts, and minds.

I have been heartened by the people who are praying, sending love, supporting one another, and saying "What can I do to change this?".

What can we do?

We can step out of the media indoctrinated responses. We can choose to remind ourselves of the abundance that we have all around us and share it with others. We can make the effort to live in a way that has integrity. If we choose to do this, we will start to believe in the power of small changes and individual action to influence the wider world.

Scarcity is also secondly defined as a 'rarity or infrequent occurrence'. Our media want to keep us in a state of fear, so they have us believe that nothing good ever happens in the world.

Think of the ratio of doom and gloom in the news, to the one 'and finally' bit of light at the end of the broadcast. Let us also remember that although tragic and devastating, bombings such as those in Paris this weekend are thankfully an infrequent occurrence.

There are wars all over the world, yet the majority of people do live in relative peace.

The majority of people live in harmony with their neighbours, and some even act as genuine caretakers for the land, animals, and people that they live with.

Let us remember to tell those stories too.

Let us remember that we have a choice whether to be paralysed by scarcity, or act towards bringing an abundance of love back into the world.

I am going to invite us to share stories of abundance to bring some balance into the messages of scarcity we are seeing and hearing on social media. I have decided that over the next 10 days, I am going to share personal stories of when I personally have experienced an abundance of love, and I challenge you to do the same?

Share your story with the hashtag #abundanceoflove and tag @thenjourney so that we can share your stories to bring some balance into the world.

If nothing else, it will help us to feel less sad... as though we can bring a little light back into the world.