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A legacy of life and death


A legacy of life and death

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For me it’s important to see death and life as equally good. Too often our fear of death is disabling and prevents us from truly living. By befriending death and seeing it as a continual part of the flow of life, we are made free to live our lives fully. My own experience with death has included near death experience, miscarriage and the inevitable loss of loved ones including the death of my soul sister Susan Smith when we were both 32.

Sue was like my mirror twin. We were one month apart in age, grew up together, gave each other advice and continually encouraged each other to be our best. We mapped out our life path in milestones that we would reach together - get a degree, get married, have children and inspire the world.

But as we know our plans are not always God's plan.

Sue’s death was a pivotal moment in me embracing my mortality. As she was dying of cancer Sue said “live your dreams”. I received this advice even in the depth of the grief, the anger and outrage that such a beautiful soul could leave the earth so early.

At first the grief was disabling, I couldn’t believe the extent of the pain, the anger and disorientation. It was as though the loss had taken me into a deep sleep, I didn’t feel like I was able to do anything.

Sues words “live your dreams” were like an alarm that kept ringing to bring me back to wakefulness. I realised I had a choice, I could remain locked and frozen by the emotion or I could use how I felt to propel me into making her death meaningful by me living my purpose.

I have lived by Sue’s advice ever since. I’ve been able to commit fully to my relationships, step out of my comfort zone and do things that I’d never thought possible. I will be continually grateful to Sue for this.

I have realised that death of a loved one does not mean your death too. It can be a call for you to fully be awake to life. You can honour the death of a loved one by living your dreams to the full.

Sue continues to inspire me every day. The legacy of her life and death continues though milestones that I reach, the advice that I give and dreams that I live.



Gratitude, appreciation and the power of Thank you

Thank you I'm on a mission to show gratitude and appreciation to the people that have supported  me to be where I am today. So, I start with saying thank you to you for reading my  posts, being in touch with me and supporting me in all the ways that you do.

I'm also deeply grateful for all of my teachers. So, today, I also want to say thank you to  my "close to home" yoga teacher, Swami Satyaprakash aka Ann Fletcher, Director of t  the Satyananda Yoga Centre Birmingham.

As my yoga teacher, trainer and mentor, Satyaprakash has given me over 15 years of  solid and beautiful teachings that have helped me to transform my life. She has also  become not only a great teacher of mine but a dear friend. It has been a difficult time  over the last year in the world of Satyananda yoga, yet she works ceaselessly to cut t  through the crap and share the love that she has for these profound yoga practices. She  has supported me through life's ups and downs and through my training and growth as  a yoga teacher, trainer and assessor. She was also there at my recent ordination as a  One Spirt Interfaith Minister and Spiritual Counsellor. She is dedicated, full on, doesn't  hold prisoners and is at the same time wonderfully caring and supportive.

This is why I am teaching a one-off yoga class on Wednesday 5 August 2015 in Birmingham and inviting you to attend if you are local. I teach nurturing yoga courses now and rarely teach general classes anymore but I am teaching this one as an act of gratitude for all of the yoga teachings that I have received through her that have helped me develop my own way of sharing my love of yoga.I am teaching a Nurturing Yoga session as part of Satyananda Yoga Summer School in Birmingham - There are other teachers teaching over the summer too if you can attend more than one.

Venue: Friends Meeting House, Colmore Road, Kings Heath, B14 7PE

Time: 7.30pm to 9pm

Cost: £7.50 per class

Dates: Wednesdays 22, 29 July and 5, 12, 19, 26 August

Booking is important! Please see booking form below:

All profits from the sessions go to 3 local charities. Riding for the Disabled Beyond the Horizon Eve Brook Scholarship Fund

For further details visit Phone SYC on 0121 444 5976 or email the team at SYC Birmingham on

I look forward to supporting her and the karma yoga team at SYC to share yoga and to raise funds too.



Is someone waiting for an invitation from you?

I woke up this morning with the thought that if I really want to make time to be with someone I need to send an invitation.  Has someone ever said to you. "You never come to visit or I don't see you much"? I don't know about you, but for me life is full of things to do, places and people to see and my diary is often booked months in advance. This means, I often just wait for a firm invitation, event or appointment before I go somewhere or see someone.

An invitation is a reason to prioritise one thing over another. It moves people, places and actions up the "to do" list.  It removes any ambiguity about whether your presence is wanted in a space or not.  It avoids the assumption "You know you are always welcome".  With a genuine invitation you actually do know you are welcome and wanted and are therefore more likely to make the effort.

So here is my invitation to you.  If you like who I am and what I do I would love to see you and have a chat. It would be great if you can come and play on The Nurturing Journey with me, share some nurturing yoga, have some laughs and generally help the world feel like a better place.  Would you like to come to anything that I've got planned? If you want, You can click here for the details.

It feels good to extend the invitation. Now you know you are welcome